((((Hiya ChristedChild!))))
You may well have determined the meaning of the second dream already, but I'll offer what bits I came up with and you can see if anything gels.
UFO's, or unidentified flying objects, can have several meanings at different levels of life. I tend to go to the most basic level, and there... they often symbolize some literally unidentified aspect of self that is either of a mental or spiritual nature.
Concerning your first paragraph, my sense is that you "picked up" on the idea that there is far more going on than people realize right now, and it's huge. Also in my sense of things, it pertains to
both the mental plane, where beliefs that live in the human consciousness reside, as well as the spiritual plane, where higher levels of self - for all humans - reside. Something new, bigger... is about to come about/be revealed in this awakening of humanity, perhaps, that will effect beliefs and spirituality.
(We're coming up to a full moon, too, where the feminine has a moment of full revelation... seems applicable)
The dream that followed this reception of information seems to pertain to your own beliefs and spiritual journey. In other words, first there was awareness that "everyone" is going through change, then it shifts to your own personal level of impact regarding those changes.
The last lines of your second dream have me a bit confused, Christed Child. If your own interp is accurate, well then that explains it. But as I did the interp bit by bit as I went through the symbolism, the last bit about Tammara being dead for a while now didn't actually fit well. It has had me confused. LOL! So... read on to what I got on the other symbolism, and see what you think.
Preparation is the opening scene, indicating that you are working on what's needed, or you need to, in order for you to return to the Heart (flight home). So this dream likely reveals something helpful along those lines.
This new female you encounter indicates an emerging feminine energy for you, or the aspect of your feminine that you're working with in preparing to return to the heart. This might pertain specifically to feelings or intuitions, "senses" that are either new or have "a new face" to them recently.
At the same time, since we know at the end you're told this woman is dead and has been for a while, there may be a clue here that something you've been working with recently, or that you encountered in life recently, is possibly no longer useful to you.
The name Tammara/Tamara/Tamar symbolizes either "spice" or "palm tree". My sense is "spice".
Something that enhances the flavor of your life, so to speak.
Numerologically speaking, (depending on spelling of course) Tammara adds down to
22=2+1+4+4+1+9+1, which is a master number, indicating a spiritual expression of balance and integration with self and others. Since you thought to spell it the way you did, and it is a valid spelling by the way, I am going with it. I don't feel these things are done accidentally.
This is part of the confusion for me around her being dead for a while. If her name adds up to spice and a master number, why would she be dead at the end?
Making plans to stay in contact indicates that whatever this female represents for you in this dream, it is something you decide you want to continue experiencing, as it enhances your life.
The sticks are wooden pieces (warmth, growth), indicating some type of growth in creativity occurring for you. This ties back to the word Tammara in its other capacity, actually, as palm TREE.
However again, I'm wondering if the message here is "dead growth", considering that sticks are wood that's been separated from it's live host. The number of sticks you had may add to the interpretation from a numerological perspective.
Being concerned that you may not be allowed to bring them feels to be pointing to some question you've had recently about some aspect of your creativity, talents and abilities, or beliefs. It's a tough call. It's as though you've been wondering how this something fits in with your spiritual self (planes indicate spiritual body). Do they "belong" at that level?
Just as you feel about ready to embark on your flight, you're told that Tammara (what she represents for you) is actually dead, and has been for a while.
This may mean leave it behind, ChristedChild.
One other idea that has popped in here and there is that you have recently worked with those who have crossed over in some way, though perhaps you didn't realize it. If that were the case, it puts a whole new slant on this dream! It might indicate that this is a talent that will grow as you move into the heart, and enable your "spiritual expression of balance and integration with self and others". Do you see what I mean there?
*sigh* Told you I was confused on this one. LOL!!
Hopefully there's something in this that will assist you. Blessings to you as you discover the life meaning in this dream message!!
Love you!
Sowelu
Ain't that just ducky?! 
sowelu, i have some major things happening on the spiritual level, things i cannot talk about nor have anyone to talk to about. it's so hard. i guess things are best unsaid and some things, even with you guys, who would believe.