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Post by LilliHart on Feb 10, 2006 23:38:42 GMT -5
You know it's interesting...I have been on this high horse for weeks now with my idea about my little mediation that I threw out every so innocently to the board sevearal weeks ago. As a matter of fact, I can't even remember where it all started but what I do know is this... My little idea of offering this meditation has raised an amzing amount of resistance. Ahhhhh, must be on to something good here. What I also find baffling and thought inspiring is how difficult it has been to communicate simply with the group about some of my concepts...which in truth are so simple they are almost impossible to comprehend because we all seem to want to have things so complex and challenging. Wonder why that is? Maybe to give us something to push against so we know we can affirm our own beliefs. I'd like to offer the group a challenge then. Instead of coming up with reasons not to do this or reasons to argue YOUR idea or belief just take any situation in which you are feeling any level of discomfort. Put your beliefs on the counter for a few minutes. You can have them all back when this is over. Close your eyes and ask yourselves ... HOW WOULD IT FEEL IF i WERE.....and fill in the blank. Destra, I'm picking you out because I love your fire...You remind me of me a while ago so you are a good role model for this. I know we have not seen eye to eye. Forget that while doing this exercise. Just close your eyes and ask youself HOW WOULD I FEEL IF I FELT CONFIDENT THAT I AM HEALTHY? And sit with it for a few minutes. Allow yourself to imagine, pretend that you are completey healthy or whatever you said to fill in the blank. Then after it's over for all of you who choose to do this experiment please come back here and share your experiences. I think you will be surprised what you find at the other side of this. Why am I asking you all to do this AGAIN? Well at first I was getting very frustrated thinking that i wasn't communicating clearly and that no one could hear what I was saying. I asked my guides a few minutes ago and they told me to ask you to do this because it is something that goes way beyond words and maybe I have been trying to put too many words to it and have confounded it with my intellect. So try it. Maybe it will do nothing for you. Maybe it will open a doorway. Be sure when you fill in the blank to use a feeling word or words. Remember the old saying...the more you resist the more it persists. If you want me to stop bugging y'all then just do it or I will have to persist...  Lil the pill |
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Post by liza on Feb 11, 2006 4:19:42 GMT -5
Lili, you're too sweet! I'm just amazed you took the time to write this post, and I felt the love behind it. Even though I haven't met your ideas with resistence and I have no idea about the rest (disagreeing CAN be fun - *hehehe*), you did give me food for thoughts on how I do meet other ideas with resistence. Thanks. |
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Post by Cherubtree on Feb 11, 2006 9:04:10 GMT -5
I like this idea...I am going to try it..very tired of being sick.
Love,
Spiirt
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Post by LilliHart on Feb 11, 2006 9:32:37 GMT -5
This can apply to any situation, not just health. Any where you feel discomfort, negativity, just look for the opposite feeling that is positive and plug in the terms. If you are worried something won't go your way, look for the outcome and plug it in.
For instance, for Ophaniel and her wanting a new car...just as an example...perahps she can visualize herself in the car and ask How would I feel if I had my new car, all shiny and complete and I was driving it NOW?
Then let yourself really feel it? Then let it go. This is not a way to close yourself of to you demons. It is a way to help you process faster.
Let me know.
Lili
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Post by destra on Feb 11, 2006 11:47:45 GMT -5
Lili what a wonderful message And thank you for singling me out - i'm glad my fire has caught your attention hehe  I do affirming meditation regularly - have been for about 12 years now. And as I get older, and more confident in myself my meditations seem to draw more magic. The sunspot on my face is drying up and feels like it may peel off like a scab - I have done that via energy work and intent. So I get what you're saying. I have never resisted anything you have to say, I can disagree without resisting sweets And I can also disagree AND love at the same time - you just be you - you are beautiful and I love your honesty it is so damn refreshing! *hugs* Love, Destra |
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Post by Edward on Feb 11, 2006 13:44:04 GMT -5
Well I don't even remember it, perhaps I didn't see the post. I take it it the only instructions to follow are the ones just given in this strings first post?
Peace, Love and Enlightenment,
Ed
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Post by LilliHart on Feb 11, 2006 17:29:11 GMT -5
Yup Ed! :-) This is so easy it's almost frightening. This was the source of Sowelu and me discovering our love affair of words...not that either of us hasn't had other lovers to roll in the fray with...so to say...LOL
If you need some help with a situation, just post it here and I will help you figure out how to fill in the blank as an example. Then you an spend two minutes doing it and see what happens.
Toodles,
Lili
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Post by destra on Feb 11, 2006 21:42:32 GMT -5
Ok I have one for you Lili - I could honestly use assistance with this - need new perspective!
How do I deal with forum members who are abusive, get banned, and come back under new IP addresses?
This is a hard one for me - have two members currently who are beyond rocking any boats, it has been unanymously decided to ban them after repeated warnings. However they are getting around the proboards system by resetting their IP addresses. It is beyond boring. The one gent has now been banned on over 10 names. Any suggestions?
*grins and waits eagerly*
Love,
Destra
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Post by LilliHart on Feb 11, 2006 22:12:05 GMT -5
Well this is an interesting dilemma...especially since another person is involved. It's always more dificult when dealing with someone else's reality...BUT REMEMBER these peope are only a reflection of something in yourself...sorry..
But I would ask the question something like this..
How would I feel if I felt confidently comfortable in my role as forum moderator...
How would I feel if I felt in control of my decisions on my forum...
How would it feel if I was completely satisfied with my decisions about my forum
I am assuming you are referring to a forum you are moderating?
You can also ask things like
How would I feel if I felt completely comfortable with my role as moderator and the decisions I have made
These are just ideas...but it seems there is some reason why this is happening. I suspect that you and this guy have locked horns and also suspect you have not been willing to back down on some of the things you have said and believe....just a sense I get from knowing you a little bit.
sometimes it's important to reexamine our own motives for making certain decisions and looking at the situation from another perspective and asking yourself what is your role in it, what is being reflected back to you, what can you learn from it and how can you shift.
So another question you could ask yourself is..
How would it feel if I were willing to be really present in this situation
How would I feel I were him
How would I feel if I gave in
And I am sure others can offer you ideas along these lines and you yourself could come up with a few.
sometimes you have to do several and as you find your answer after one question comes up another different situation arises and then you have to ask another question.
this helps your process through the stuff and also helps you shift into a feeling mode that allows you to feel good about the situation and yourself. then when you have shifted your point of perception you can work through more junk without betraying yourself in the process.
Let me know how it works out.
Lili
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Post by destra on Feb 11, 2006 23:20:47 GMT -5
These are just ideas...but it seems there is some reason why this is happening. I suspect that you and this guy have locked horns and also suspect you have not been willing to back down on some of the things you have said and believe....just a sense I get from knowing you a little bit. I'm not quite sure what you are implying about me here Lili - I am not a confrontational person. I am an honest person. This man was a very stable and quiet member for quite some time, until out of nowhere 2 weeks ago he began posting offensively towards my members. Yes I am referring to my own forum, Awakening Starseeds. We have a section for Affirmation and Manifestation on ASF, where you are free to share your dreams, affirmations, and to put forth your intention clearly. This particular category is for creation - and this gentleman replied to a members manifestation very confrontationally. He questioned why the person who posted would try to affirm things, did they doubt themselves do much. He was righteous and egotistical - looking for a fight quite honestly. He was warned, as per our Forum Guidelines, and after his 3rd warning he was banned. I understand everything you've said above, and respect and agree with it. However in this case, after having given this to the Angels and letting their wisdom wash upon me, I feel the only lesson provided to me here is to stay steadfast in my responsibility to my forum energy. Now back to my original question Lili - you seem to have formed an opinion of me, which struck me in another post where you felt I had disliked your reply. Lili again I say to you - I am as peaceful and honest as they come. I speak my truth. I live from my heart. I may ruffle feathers occasionally with my words, but it is never intentionally. I can not help how people read my words, or react to them. I hope that when you read my words you do so with the understanding that every word I type on this or any other forum is an attempt to further my own memory and growth, and to lend Light to the world in return as it awakens and remembers. Man i'm wordy lol - sorry - have a hard time condensing my thoughts at times. Again, thank you for your guidance above, i'm not sure it helps me to figure out how to deal with this particular banned member, but I appreciate your outlook, your heart, and your honesty. Much Love & Respect, Destra |
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Post by liza on Feb 12, 2006 5:25:43 GMT -5
Destra, your forum is looking good and I am very proud of you! I do have one question about the affirmations section - have you made it clear that it is to be treated like a "rant/vent "- an unconditionally supportive environment members can only reply with support and encouragement to the affirmations, instead of dishing out criticism or judgment? Cos that's what I feel you are trying to relay here about the value of the affirmations section. Unless I'm off base here?
Asking is a wonderful stepping stone to get what you need especially when you are leading a message board!
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Post by destra on Feb 12, 2006 13:11:29 GMT -5
Liza very valid question - in fact we did have a rules list there posted as a sticky but upon checking now I see its gone - so thank you!!! i will have to redo that. Bless you Angel, Destra |
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Post by liza on Feb 12, 2006 15:03:02 GMT -5
Destra - glad to be of service! Now I'm being nosy.. hehehe! I wonder if that advice felt right for you, as a final click in place? Or do you feel there is still more for you to learn from this person's dark role in your forum? |
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Post by destra on Feb 12, 2006 15:30:42 GMT -5
Hehe thats not nosy at all I feel like a deeper issue is being learned and resolved within me. Thanks to people here like yourself, Liliahnah and Sowelu i've been able to find a deeper meaning to all of this - and I know what my lesson here is. It is to balance my yin/yang, and to stop supressing on aspect of myself in order to intensify another. Its been a learning experience and yes, at this point I do feel at peace with it now. I thank you all! Such a great warm bunch of people to share with - i'm so happy to be here Love, Destra |
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Post by liza on Feb 12, 2006 15:50:42 GMT -5
Destra, that's so beautiful! Thank you. May we never stop transcending, and I see that as a blessing.. sometimes a pain in the ass, but definitely a blessing. LOL!!  |
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